Happiness is something that everyone in the world wants to have. Many people would say that happiness means having millions of dollars, or going on a luxury world tour will make them happy, or finally getting the career that they’re always wanted is their ultimate happiness.
However, there are people who say that finding the love of their life will make them happy. It’s so simple but so elusive for most people. And when people are in a relationship, they often find themselves miserable when the honeymoon stage seems to wane.
If you want to know how to be happy in a relationship, follow these 6 tips or habits of happy couples:
1. Make Self-Love a Top Priority
Most people assume that self-love is all about being selfish – it’s actually not about that at all. Self-love means not putting up with bullshit from your partner or other people, standing up for yourself when you know your partner has done you wrong, and it’s simply a demand for respect.
Often, relationships start to get messy when boundaries are no longer there. By demanding respect, you’re making sure that all the things in the relationship is for your own good and for your partner’s. If you know arguing each night over dinner is unhealthy, then it’s time you both take a break and compensate to meet in the middle.
Self-love also means not giving every bit of your life to your partner. No one wants to have a clingy and overly dependent partner. Give yourself your own space and your own time, so your partner can get a glimpse of you from afar. Sometimes, when you’re all over each others’ faces, you can’t really see the true beauty of a person. So make some distance but just enough to make your partner admire you.
2. Establish Friendship
Go out and play at the park, or watch a funny movie together, or simply be there for each other when things don’t go so well at the office. Being “friends” with your partner means you’re more than just a lover and a companion – but a partner for life.
3. Practice Acceptance
No one is perfect. If your partner is always 30 minutes late in picking you up for dinner, use your creativity and always tell him/her your dinner reservation is at 7:30 instead of 8. And if your partner doesn’t really have a good sense of style, then don’t try to change him/her if he/she doesn’t want to.
There will always be two sides to a coin – and when you’re in a committed relationship, you have to love both. Acceptance is key to being satisfied with your relationship.
4. Set Realistic Expectations
You may want to be driven in a Rolls Royce on Valentine’s Day this year, but the truth of the matter is, your partner can’t afford to even rent one. So set realistic expectations without having to settle.
You may want that European tour, but time and budget constraints make it impossible. Go to Hawaii instead and still have a vacation but without having to actually leave the country.
5. Be Kind
You may be so angry at your partner for eating the last piece of that scrumptious cake you were saving for tonight, but instead of lashing out, just say “It’s okay,” even though you want to smash your partner’s face with a ceramic plate.
But being kind is different from being a doormat – showing kindness means what your partner did may be wrong, but you are willing to forgive him/her.
Self-control and kindness will eventually take away your anger and annoyance and what you’ll get in return will also be the very same kindness that you’ve shown.
6. Have Common Interests
Doing things that you both love to do is essential for a happy relationship. If you love music, then go to concerts together, or if you love fitness, then enrol in the same gym. You have to constantly do enjoyable experiences together so you’ll fall in love with each other every single time. It will be like you’re getting to know your partner each and every time when you do something exciting, creative, and just plain fun.
The steps on how to be happy in a relationship are very simple and take very little effort. Happiness is there – you just have to find it and work on it together.