Long-term relationships have a tendency to go stale. They say that familiarity breeds contempt – and when you’re in a long-term romantic union with someone, it can be true.
Whether your relationship has turned sour or it’s reached a plateau, it’s always a great idea to think of new things to do to bring the spark back. Follow these 6 fail-proof ways on how to spice up your relationship and expect to have those butterflies flying inside your stomach once again.
1. Be Spontaneous
Sure, you may have tons and tons of household chores or work to do, but don’t you remember the first weeks of your relationship? When nothing could get you and your loved one from seeing each other? Remember those days when you wished you could get off work early or skip class just so you can spend more time with your partner?
Be spontaneous and do exciting things on a whim. It could be sneaking into a park in the middle of the night and playing with the slides or swings. Or trying out a new Thai restaurant that just opened when you were supposed to head to a fast food chain.
While planning can bring excitement with anticipation, nothing beats being spontaneous for an unexpected adventure – it’s like bringing the child out of you – curious, cheerful, and optimistic.
2. Explore Novel Experiences Together
Just like being spontaneous, doing novel things together will bring something new to the relationship. It could be spending a vacation in a country you’ve never been to, or taking up surfing classes when you’ve never stood on a board in your life. Doing the same things over and over again can be boring. And nothing can be more boring than doing things out of habit or routine.
So change the predictable and do something out of your comfort zones. You will never grow if you keep on doing the same things over and over again. To expect different results, you must do different things. If you want that spice back, then you have to get out of that apartment and embrace life with your partner.
3. Invest in Your Looks
Always be prepared to be swept off your feet – and that means taking care of the way you look. If you’ve retired that sexy little black dress because you think you don’t need it anymore now that you’ve got a husband, then it’s time to take it out of the attic.
Just because you are already married or in a long-term, committed relationship, it doesn’t mean you have to stop taking care of your looks. Get a haircut, take care of your skin, and don your sexiest and most dashing outfits every now and then. Strangers’ stares will definitely get your partner jealous, and will make him/her proud to be yours.
4. Watch Something Naughty
If you can’t bring the sexy on, then a good idea would be to watch a sexy movie. You can watch a romantic movie with a lot of nudity or sex scenes, or seductive films that focus on attraction and passion.
Watching these kinds of movies will elicit your sensuality – overcoming you with the same passion and desire that you can use on your partner who’s sitting beside you.
5. Have Some Role Playing
While making love with your partner is amazing, making love with a new person for the first time can be explosive. But it doesn’t mean you have to cheat on your partner and go dirty with someone else. You can get dirty with a “new” person, by having you and your partner do some role playing.
You can buy costumes and pretend to be different people. You can buy a Doctor’s and a nurse’s costumes and pretend to be making love in a hospital, or dress up as a billionaire with your partner as a French maid. The possibilities of role playing are endless and all you have to do to get that spice back is to have a little imagination.
6. Be Romantic Everyday
It could be as simple as wrapping your arms around your partner’s waist when he/she is washing the dishes. Or it could be as simple as a kiss on the forehead when your partner is out and about doing chores. Or it could be as grand as a dinner for two on an ordinary day.
Make romance part of your lifestyle as a couple. It shouldn’t be restricted to anniversaries, birthdays, or other special occasions. Being romantic means showing how much you love the other person – and because you love your partner everyday, show it to him/her.
If you want to know how to spice up your relationship, these 6 tips are fail-proof ways to do just that. All it takes to bring your relationship back to life is a little effort and a little imagination.